Can I just TALK with someone? Yes, you can.
There have been several times in the past four decades when I really just needed to be able to Talk with someone about very real difficulties in my life. Edgy things. Things that were hard to make sense of, and no one wanted to believe. Inconvenient things. Unpleasant and distressing things.
Through my personal trials, I’ve come to wonder at how we – as a society – have forgotten how to be with the discomfort of another.
- To truly sit with someone in their depths of emotions.
- To witness their journey of pain and not rush any solutions.
- To believe their version of reality even if we cannot see or feel it ourselves.
I realized the extent of this social disconnection recently when one of my adult children was going through a very difficult time. I knew in my heart there was a new way forward in this continuing situation, beyond old traditional fixes. But I had very few places to talk through what was happening so that I could figure out approaches that worked for All of us instead of for the comfort of a few.
Everything was confusing and borderline traumatic, for everyone involved, which caused very nervous and unhelpful reactions in even my closest friends and family. And I was in groups that you’d think would know better! Some suggested that we use ‘happy thoughts and feelings’ to clear away difficulties. Others gave ‘tough love’ advice that was really rather inappropriate for the circumstances. Lots of people were dismissive or changed subjects.
Neither bypassing with love and light nor forceful approaches of outdated authority were going to help settle things appropriate to everyone involved. There’s a difference between boundaries and cruelty! And true well-being for everyone can’t be called in with affirmations and hopeful expectations.
Quite often, Reality calls for compassionate actions arising from careful considerations.
Are you needing someone to sit with you in your discomfort, to LISTEN as you speak out your thoughts and feelings?
As someone who has experienced all levels of transformation, I am here to hold space and support you through your own challenging, but important journey of empowerment. You’ll feel safe as I hold a light of guidance for your inner explorations. And I’ll invite a variety of Breakthrough realizations on your path of deciding What’s True For You Now – all while co-creating deep, meaningful, and lasting Transformation.
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Lissa! Thank you so much for sharing this! The spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity are topics that get the brush due to “sensitive” classification, BUT YES! We need to learn how to be open to discuss with someone who knows how to hold space, listen empathically and allow one to just BE….in that discomfort but in a safe space to do so with out judgement. You are a rare gift my friend, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping people like myself explore those areas that are very uncomfortable in a safe space.